The purpose of this blog is to show how faith, my professional training and a healthy sense of humor taught me and continues to teach me that Jesus Christ is always in control. I am a fellow learner as this journey for my child unfolds. My wish is that Ben's legacy gives others hope where there seems to be none. It is also my desire that the information I have assimilated with my medical mind and filtered through a mother's heart gives practical ways to deal with this ever-changing chronic disease. Finally, for the many friends and family members who continue to follow Ben's life change after the injury, the story continues.

Wednesday, September 4, 2013


I visited Ben a few days ago at the ranch where he lives. The most recent development is his increased thirst to establish relationship with friends and family. He is remembering phone numbers and calling people to talk often.  He is texting messages to them. A sweet friend and neighbor called me on Saturday night excited because Ben called their house that evening. It was totally unexpected. How did Ben remembered her number? This friend's son had been an important companion early in Ben's life. Both the friend and her son had visited Ben often during the days when Ben was in critical condition in the neurosurgical intensive care unit. She was crying. To her, the phone call was evidence of the miracles God is capable of performing.
 As I post updates about Ben in this phase of his life, I am struck by how many friends tell me that they cried or were deeply moved by what is happening in this journey.  Ben's injury, the story of his life, will be for good.  Ben is praying and speaks often about the second chance God has given him.  I believe that one day he may be able to deliver an amazing testimony.

Ben has made amazing progress, but the evidence of chronic illness from his traumatic brain injury is still apparent. Ben still battles problems with memory and attention. He carries small notebooks around to write down things he doesn’t want to forget. He has to be reminded to watch his language at times, but eagerly apologizes and adjusts his behavior if asked. Ben’s therapists report that he is relearning to handle money. The exercises involve making change, keeping a checkbook, etc. The therapists report that he is 50% accurate with using a calculator and 75% accurate with pen and paper when making change.  He is working hard with the therapists and riding an exercise bike about 30 minutes daily. Personal care and household chores, including laundry, are now managed easily as part of his routine.

As we move forward on this journey, it is clear that God is healing Ben and that He will provide the answers as new challenges come. As a mom it is tough not to worry about what is next. Will Ben be able to work, to learn, to look after himself? Through miraculous provision, Ben will be staying at the rehabilitation facility for 6 more months. Isaiah 30:15a says, “For thus says the Holy One of Israel: In returning [to Me] and resting [in Me] you shall be saved; in quietness and in [trusting] confidence shall be your strength.” AMP  For now I am “resting”. Trusting confidence in God is my strength. It will be good.